Counseling for LGBTQ+ Adults
Lately, you have been wondering about your gender and/or sexuality.
You thought you knew yourself, but you realize that you have been pushing these thoughts and feelings down for a while.
You feel scared and overwhelmed, but at the same time, you feel curious, maybe even excited. You want to understand yourself better.
You want to feel at home within yourself.
Your mind is flooded with questions
You know that there is nothing to be ashamed of, but you can’t help but feel like you should have this all figured out by now. And yet, you keep find yourself asking questions like:
Who am I?
What do I want?
Who do I like?
How will I know if I am LGBTQ+?
Should I tell anyone?
How would I tell someone?
What would this mean for my life?
Coming out sounds terrifying, but living with this secret is starting to feel even worse.
I love helping clients navigate the life-long process of coming out and the joys and challenges of living as a Queer individual in the world.
If you have been questioning your gender and/or sexuality, some of the following experiences might sound familiar to you:
You feel preoccupied with questions about gender, sexuality and relationships
You often find that you struggle to feel like yourself, particularly when you are wearing certain clothes or looking at your own body
You sometimes find yourself fantasizing about same-gendered people, but you try to push these thoughts away
You sometimes find yourself fantasizing about living in a body with different parts, but you try to push these thoughts away
You often google “am I gay,” “am I trans,” “what is my gender,” etc. You have taken every online quiz about gender and sexuality, but you’re still not sure
You often have extreme or emotional reactions to LGBTQ+ stories (either positive or negative)
You feel like you have been avoiding asking yourself questions about gender or sexuality because you are afraid of what you might find out
If you are LGBTQ+ identifying and you are thinking about coming out, you might be feeling:
Scared and unsure about what or how you will tell people
Afraid of how people will react
Ashamed about “taking too long” to come out or “keeping a secret”
Worried about people finding out before you are ready to tell them
Scared about how this might change your relationships with friends, family, colleagues and/or partners
Afraid of having your identity politicized, judged or policed
Scared for your safety and wellbeing
Afraid of making big changes, even if you believe they will be positive
Concerned that it is “too late” for you to come out
How can counseling help?
I create a safe space for my clients to reflect, explore, and ask all the questions that have been keeping them up at night
We will move at your speed and follow your lead. You are on your own timeline and I am here to support you through that
In therapy, we will practice talking about the things that can be scary and uncomfortable to put into words
You will have a space to face and process your deepest fears and worries, knowing that you will be fully seen and heard without judgement